A con of all cons, that can cause somebody like me to pass you by in an instant.

I have a number of friends in the Black community who have made similar laments: Black women who are disturbed by the number of Black men who categorically refuse to date Black women.

As young women, we enter the world of dating on a mission to discover what type of man works for us, who we enjoy spending time with and ultimately what kind of man we can eventually see ourselves spendin...

As I scroll dating site after dating site I find there is a common deception, done by both men and women alike.

But while most of my friends were telling me that my hair reminded them of Janet Jackson’s in , the guy I’d been seeing was bemused when he saw me in person with my waist-length new do. “I didn’t know your hair was…so long.” Let the record show that this dude is incredibly intelligent, but it was clear that black hair confused the hell out of him. I would never have to explain to a black dude that I was clearly wearing braided hair extensions! Here are 10 things you’ll only understand if you’re a black girl dating a white dude. You have to teach them everything about black hair.

That moment when you stop being reluctant to talk about race issues because, get real, you’re not dating an ignorant jerk.

While I may flirt or develop friendships with other Black gay men, I’ve never seriously pursued a relationship with one.

In a mixed-race society, this testosterone differential advantages some race/gender demographics, and disadvantages others.I’m quickly approaching my 25th birthday and have come to the realization that I’ve never been in a long-term relationship. That's not uncommon among millennials, but as a Black gay man, I've begun to wonder how my race has affected my chances of finding love.I like to think of myself as someone who’s adventurous when it comes to love and sex, someone who’d never rule out potential partners or new experiences.(But that's just a guess.)As much as we wish nationality wasn't such an issue in dating, you'd be shocked how often we hear this type of thing too. And while this is specifically geared toward black women, you could certainly cut and paste any race that isn't yours into these tips. Get your pencils ready folks, number 1's a doozy:1. Funky Brown Chick says, "If you’ve never dated a black woman before and you’d like to ask someone out, simply say something like: 'Hey, are you free on Friday? "But I think most people want to be cherished/loved/cared for/desired/etc. Maybe we could be grab coffee or drinks or something? People assume that just because your BF is white that you’re only into white dudes. Wondering if people are judging him for dating a black chick in the first place.