Saying "thank you" with a big smile when you receive a gift or nice gesture may seem adequate enough but it's not. In these days of instant communication, it's easy to overlook the act of writing a thank you letter, or feel it's overdoing it. Someone buys you a gift and in return, you give the gift of acknowledgement.We show you what to say, when to say it, and what to write it on. If you care about your reputation, you cannot fail to send a thank you note. It shouldn’t matter if this guy is your BFF or someone you barely know; a simple “thanks for dinner” works.Sending out a personal, hand-written thank-you note is not just good manners – it’s expected.Standard etiquette dictates that you should express your gratitude on a hand-written card within three months.Cheer up: The whole process of reflecting again on your treasures can rekindle all your best engagement and wedding memories.And with the right system, you can have your obligations polished off in no time.Wedding thank-you note prep starts months before you unwrap that first gift.

If you pace yourself, you can be sure that friends and family will feel appreciated soon after having sent their gift.

If you're at a loss on how to plan, assemble and write your wedding thank you cards, look no further than our tips below.

Dear Aunt Laura, Thank you so much for your very generous wedding gift.

As you know we're saving for a down payment, and we so appreciate your support.

It was such a blast to see you at the wedding, and we can't wait to catch up around the holidays! Best wishes, Tyler and Monroe Dear Claire, It was so lovely to see you at our wedding a few weeks ago. Thank you for making the trip; it really meant so much to have you there. All our love, Don and Angie Dear Uncle Carlos, Thank you so very much for your thoughtful donation to the Valley Human Society.