A woman has just realized that her boyfriend has been active on online dating sites.She is wondering if this is alright, and if she should address him.I discovered by accident he had been using a dating site, and in the last two months had been winking and flirting with women on it. And he has made me feel like I’m such an awful person. (That’s why “accident” is in quotes.) But the problem here, is once you procure information in a covert fashion it’s very difficult to do much with it. I didn’t say anything for a couple of days because I was in shock and wanted to be calm when I discussed it with him. But then he sent me an odd text saying he loves me. Once you tell him how you discovered the information he’ll immediately shut down and feel that you violated the trust of your relationship. However, even though you “accidentally” discovered the information, now that you have it, it trumps any argument he can raise. Just when you thought things were rolling along merrily, you happen to browse the same or another dating site and find his profile still active.

There are some questions that I want you to ask yourself before you decide whether or not you say anything to your boyfriend: Spend some time and figure out why you are in this relationship, what you want out of the relationship, and how you feel about this specific situation before you talk to your boyfriend.

I want to share with you that although your question is very short, I get a sense that you do not trust your boyfriend.

I believe that trust is the main ingredient for a healthy relationship, and without it, the relationship becomes troublesome and both of the partners suffer.

now wouldn't that be a hoot :-) But this time, you'll be all the more wiser. Do yourself a favor and move on, and next time don't get so invested before you know who the person is you are dealing with.

Life's too short to hang on to something that makes you worry and wonder. and I bet a day didn't go buy that they were "wondering" how the other felt.... that in itself answers are questions of "can I trust him... you might get back on POF and it'll match ya up again.. The relationship is over, it barely started to be honest, and now you only know enough to drive you nuts and make it easy for him to make you feel crazy.